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Fire and more fire


Everyone goes through a crucible; a test; a furnace; a fire. Several times in your life in different forms: Financial trouble, loneliness, losing someone dear, disappointment, sickness – we all go through a fire. Three types of people emerge from the fire;

Those who die

They are consumed by the flames, choked by the smoke and their hearts melt in the heat. The bad experience defines the rest of their lives. They get stuck in the ashes, memories of how it used to be and what could have been. Alive but not living.

Those who learn to love the fire

The fire is not allowed to burn out. They adjust their lives and live as if the fire still rages on; as if the building is still filled with smoke and the metal door still too hot to touch.

They meet new people but still treat them like they were part of those who cheated them.

They refuse to leave it in the past and get back to who they are – the fire changes them. They do not give a chance for the fire to go out and go cold – they keep it alive. They have plans just in case the fire comes back again. Life is built around their issues.

Those who come out stronger                

The scars are accepted as a new part of who they are and not hidden. The clothes worn on that day refuse to lose the smell of smoke are thrown away. A makeover happens. Conversations about the incident don’t come up all the time now. Laughter gets deeper and louder – things do not go back to normal; a new normal is created. Some friends are lost, some are rock solid and some new friends are made. Things have changed but the past is in the past, working what is here now to create the future.

I bet you can see yourself in all three categories – dead, stuck or coming out stronger. Life happens!

Fake it till you make it won’t work here; be aware of how you have been affected by fires you have been through. It’s not ‘get over it’ but ‘be aware of it’. Know when your pain is driving you to choose friends, to decline business offers, quit the job, change church or wear those uncomfortable heels….

Take it to God often and ask Him for healing, comfort and to come out stronger. A pastor, counsellor or friend can help to give perspective, support and strategy. Keep the commitment to be defined by Christ not by the fires you’ve been through.

God knew life would happen and we would be dead or stuck but want to come out stronger so

       He was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought  us peace was upon Him, and by His wounds we are healed. Isaiah 53:5



This time, it will be different

This piece is dedicated to all those that are reaching up higher, looking up and working toward things greater than them in spite of being pulled down, right left and center people, circumstances and the past.

Listen up; my friend shares his story.

I’m a great guy, I think. I’m not perfect but I try to stay out of big trouble. My small sister says I’m the most handsome guy in the world and I choose to believe her. I’m told I had refused to come out a birth. Mom really suffered, huffing and puffing and pushing but it was too comfortable and I tried to hold on to the wall but after a while, I was overpowered and I was thrust into the world. I came out screaming at the top of my lungs. My mom didn’t take that episode lightly and she never let me forget it. She told everyone about it.

Most of my life, I always felt held back. Somehow things never added up. I would read, be confident in exams but I never got the A. I even helped my classmates and they passed better than I did. I started a small business but it’s not making much progress; seems like its plagued by bad luck or something. In spite of my efforts and hard work, somehow I don’t achieve as much as I worked for.

I pray a lot but it seems like I have a half blessing; when I can read the word, I can’t pray. When I have a girlfriend, no money; when she flew out, I got a great job. I try so hard but it seems like my efforts are not good enough, I’m not top of the line.

Everything around me seems to scream ‘You’re Average! You’re good but not quite.’

This is very scary. I’m ready to work hard but I’m discouraged. I couldn’t stand to fail again. I’m afraid I might never fully achieve my dreams in life. I can’t stand to think that I’ll have to settle for what I get rather than get what I want. The worst part is that I feel held back by something I have no control over.

If God asked, “What can I do for you?” I have a list;

_I would like to break out of my past bad record of unfulfilled dreams and frustration; Lord help me.

_So far, I have worked so hard and not achieved much. I feel I could be so much more!  I need YOUR BLESSING.  

_Allow me to see what You see in me; my potential. Allow me to know why You created me; my purpose. I’m confused by all the voices of people around me. Allow me to spend my life living my purpose and achieve my highest potential.

_Keep me from problems, pain, hurt, and all these issues that seem to follow me everywhere. 

 Will it really happen?

Jabez was more honorable than his brothers; but his mother named him Jabez ‘because I bore him in pain’ Jabez cried out to the God of Israel saying, Oh that you would bless me and enlarge my border, and that Your Hand might be upon me, and you would keep me from pain. And God granted his request.   1 Chronicles 4: 9-10

God has done it before, He can do it again. Yes for you, He can do it for you.

 Do not remember the former things…..Behold, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs forth; do you not perceive it? I will even make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert. Isaiah 43: 18-19

It will be different!




All my friends were talking about it. I decided to finally just get the Series and see what they were talking about; I wanted to join the conversation. I went to my video guy and took Season I and Season II. He informs me that now he runs a delivery service and for Season III & IV, I can just call him from home and he will deliver at no extra charge – yay for competition in business leading to better services and yay for more convenience or is it laziness – I digress.

Breaking Bad is an American crime drama television series about Walter White (Bryan Cranston), a struggling high school chemistry teacher who is diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer. He turns to a life of crime, producing and selling methamphetamine (drug popularly known as meth), in order to make a tonne of money and secure his family’s financial future before he dies.

In Season Two, Walter White has finished the first stage of chemotherapy and undergoes a scan to check the response of the tumor to the treatment. He has to wait for one week for the results – this is a long one week. He expects the worst and even begins to prepare his family for his death.

I feel sorry for Walter, his wife and teenage son. They all start to imagine how it will be without him and the episode ends. For a while my feelings were caught up in the TV world – I felt sorry for his wife and his son who were trying to imagine a life without Walter. Then it hit me!

If there’s a season IV, Walter White must still be alive! The main character never dies in any quality production! All of a sudden I felt so much better. Plus, I could just press play and find out. Phew!

This is how God must view things when he says, don’t worry. He looks into the future and knows what will happen. If something bad will happen, God knows He will be there for you and will help you through it. If something good is about to happen, He knows you will enjoy it. Worrying just makes you miserable while you wait, it doesn’t change anything.

Matthew 6:25 Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink or about what you will wear. Is not life more important than food and the body more important than clothes?

Life is more than food and clothes and houses and cars and money and marriage – life is more than that. The scripture here implies that when we focus on attaining these things, we miss something more important – life.

God has seen the next episode in your life, actually He knows all the way to the end. He knows.

You can ask Him; you can trust Him; you can follow Him confidently into the future as the seasons unfold.